Independence Day 2018

Are you, like me, struggling to connect with that celebratory spirit in this 4th of July? Is America not living up to your expectations? Does it not just recently, but regularly, let you down?

I believe in the potential of the USA. I grew up patriotic and will die that way. Sometimes we all need little reminders of why we love what we love though…Personally, I had to take a quick tour of the founding documents to give me some hope.

The Declaration of Independence

The “We hold these truths to be self evident” part is a challenge, cuz they didn’t include people like me in the whole “all men are created equal,” thing. They at least established a framework for us to fight for more “equal” equality in the following centuries.

Helpful: “A Prince whose character is thus marked by every act which may define a Tyrant, is unfit to be the ruler of a free people.”

Not Helpful: “He has excited domestic insurrections amongst us, and has endeavoured to bring on the inhabitants of our frontiers, the merciless Indian Savages, whose known rule of warfare, is an undistinguished destruction of all ages, sexes and conditions.”

I’m encouraged to remember that our founders had some basic standards for the behavior of our head of state. It is also important to remember that they had glaring gaps in their vision of humanity. No human is a savage or an “animal.” History will surely judge our willingness to dehumanize our sisters and brothers on earth, as we can judge our forefathers.

The Constitution

Plenty of juicy tidbits here…

Article. I.Section. 3.

• “Judgment in Cases of Impeachment shall not extend further than to removal from Office, and disqualification to hold and enjoy any Office of honor, Trust or Profit under the United States: but the Party convicted shall nevertheless be liable and subject to Indictment, Trial, Judgment and Punishment, according to Law.”

Random example: imagine a wild scenario where the President damages the state apparatus and instead helps a foreign head of state at the expense of US interests…Not only could he be removed from office, but he can ALSO be prosecuted for his other crimes, such as money laundering, sexual assault, or campaign finance violations, just to give some examples.

Article. II.Section. 2.

• “[The President] shall have Power to grant Reprieves and Pardons for Offences against the United States, except in Cases of Impeachment.”

Good luck keeping associates quiet with promises of pardons…

Article. II.Section. 4.

• “The President, Vice President and all civil Officers of the United States, shall be removed from Office on Impeachment for, and Conviction of, Treason, Bribery, or other high Crimes and Misdemeanors.”

I never noticed “bribery” in there. My guess is that others missed it too. I understand, it’s easy to miss phrases in documents you never read.

Article VI

• “No religious Test shall ever be required as a Qualification to any Office or public Trust under the United States.”

You don’t have to be “Christian enough” to be a member of Congress or the Supreme Court.

A note on amended sections:

It’s ok to love our nation and want it to be closer to the ideals it was founded on. But some of the ideals needed to be challenged. Case in point:

Article IV, section 2,

• “No Person held to Service or Labour in one State, under the Laws thereof, escaping into another, shall, in Consequence of any Law or Regulation therein, be discharged from such Service or Labour, but shall be delivered up on Claim of the Party to whom such Service or Labour may be due

“If a slave runs to a free state, he must be returned to his master.” Not great, guys. Slavery as part of our very foundation? No wonder our great great grandpappies and grandmammies had to fight like hell to clean this error up.

Fortunately, this was partially corrected by the 13th amendment.

Section 1.

• “Neither slavery nor involuntary servitude, except as a punishment for crime whereof the party shall have been duly convicted, shall exist within the United States, or any place subject to their jurisdiction.“

Note: Slavery was not abolished for those who have been convicted of a crime. Seems like a loophole big enough to drive a Mac truck through. Convenient.

The point here is that there are many beautiful aspects to the U.S. and I’m stoked to celebrate them today. Maybe in reconnecting to America’s beauty, as well as admitting the things that are problematic, we can find hope and encouragement to do what we need to for a better country. Simply chucking norms out the window isn’t working.

For more information:

Our Founding Documents

13, an eye opening film

Martin Verdict: Chain Emails Don’t Hurt People. People Who Share Them Without Researching First? They Hurt People.

With a smirk that seemed to drip smug superiority, an acquaintance shoved his iphone at me from across the lunch table. “Do you know who this is?” expecting that I wouldn’t be able to give the correct answer. Fortunately, I knew EXACTLY who that was. And I was ready to tell him.

“Uh…yeah! Oh, what’s his name, I know him he’s a rapper…” I replied. Betrayed again by that too-familiar, tip-of-my-tongue feeling, I thought.

“No,” he replied, “Look again.” His smugness turned patronizing.

“No? Yeah! That IS him! He’s famous, I’ll look him up.” I had barely pulled out my cell phone when my lunch companion answered his own question with a chuckle.

“That’s Trayvon Martin.”

I looked up to make sure he was serious. I mean, he did chuckle. But no, he was just amused, not telling a joke, not playing a prank. HE WAS SERIOUS. He handed me his phone so that I could read the chain email sent to him by another acquaintance. After a quick scan, I was annoyed. It made statements about how this was a picture of the “real” Trayvon, not those sweet football jersey pics that the biased liberal media was running. There was something in there about how this picture “changes” the story. They didn’t say WHY it changes the story, but the message is obvious. I mean, look at that scowling, beefy, Black, tattooed dude! Who wouldn’t fear for their lives and shoot him?

I gave him his phone back.

A rather flattering picture of The Game. Long sleeves, nice jeans, I ain’t mad. Hey, does anyone else notice that he DOES NOT look like a 17 year old?

After 10-15 seconds of searching, I found the actual answer to his question, not that he even wanted it anymore. The picture was of The Game, an LA rapper, former member of G-Unit. Now I was the one shoving my phone in his face, my Google search for The Game showed pictures and his given name (Jayceon Terrell Taylor). I’ll admit that I felt a little smug, as he compared the tattoos of The Game to the tattoos in the fake picture of “Trayvon”, and told me I was right. (“You’re right” is not as good as “You’re right, and I’m sorry, and I’ll reply to the email chain about the fact that this is wrong,” but it’s better than doubling-down on stupidity. In this day and age, hearing “You’re right” is, frankly, a miracle.)

The subject changed briefly. Then my lunchmate asked some ill-conceived question along the lines of, “even though that wasn’t really a picture of Trayvon, wouldn’t you be afraid for your life if you were in a fight with that rapper guy?” Irritation turned to anger. But I did not want to make a scene in the restaurant. His question was so rude and offensive, that I would’ve spent my whole lunch hour to pick it apart anyway. So I sternly stated what I felt was truth: Zimmerman followed Martin on foot after being told not to, and brought a gun to a non-fight. Whatever happened that night, Martin did not deserve to die for it. The subject changed again and it stayed changed. I looked calm. I told myself I was calm. But lunch soon ended and I wasn’t really calm.

I have the problem that most people have when getting utterly blindsided by stupidity. I think of 100 brilliant things to say after the moment is passed. I regretted that I had been concerned about making a scene. Trapped in politeness, I might have let ignorance prevail. And then the word microaggression flashed into my head.

Microaggression is a social psychological term that means exactly what you’d think. A microaggression is tiny: these little offenses build and build. Each offense seems so small, that nothing can be done, but still, they are insidious and destructive somehow. It’s death by 1000 razor-cuts. It’s racial or sexual or age-related or weight-related. It could be intentional or accidental or passive-aggressive, and it’s rarely easy to tell which type has occurred. I worked hard to minimize that conversation, so that I wouldn’t look and feel as angry as I felt (because God-forbid, I reflect a stereotype of angry Black women while fighting a stereotype of delinquent Black men):

I mean, who gives a crap about a dumb chain email? Didn’t those things die out with the 90’s (Okay, the 90’s are still alive in my mind, but chain emails? Really??? Too afraid to share it publicly on Twitter? Instagram that picture. Geeze.) How many people could have seen that email, and who cares what that guy thinks anyway? I don’t. Ha, ignorance is just alive and well, I guess.

It was all an automated exercise in shoving. SHOVE-SHOVE-SHOVE the anger down until I can deal with it later…knowing that later might never come. Unfortunately, you cannot shove anger and stress down without consequences. Microagressions, and the pattern of being offended, not feeling the right or power to do anything about it, shoving it down, rinsing, repeating…all adds up to seriously high rates of hypertension, pregnancy complications, and shorter life spans in the Black community.

So, I had to look at that anger, for my own sake. I realized that it was the email, and the writer and sharers of that email, that really made me mad. My companion’s willingness to believe the lies and waste my lunch with foolishness that had been debunked here and here over a year ago was not helping his case at any rate, but it was mostly the email. Here’s why:

1)      Tattoos are not an invitation to be followed home from a Skittles run and shot in the heart. Martin wasn’t even tatted up anyway. Regardless, he may not have looked like a cute little-leaguer. But even if he was 9 feet tall, wearing a hoodie screenprinted with, “I’m big, Black, and dangerous,” he should have been able to go to the store for Skittles, and come back alive.

2)      Zimmerman might not have been racist (yes, I really believe that Zimmerman might not have been a racist), but that email is DEFINITELY racist. It reminds me of a scene in the movie Hurricane. A violent shooting occurs, and Denzel Washington’s character (a famous boxer) is pulled over the same night while driving home with his friend. The officers inform him that they are looking for the suspects: two Black men in a Pontiac. Denzel replies sarcastically, “Any two will do?” He’s arrested, convicted, and sentenced to life in prison for a crime he did not commit. The point being that as long as a Black person gets punished when something bad happens, who cares which Black person it is? I imagine that whoever constructed that string of lies and sent it as an email didn’t care whose picture he used, as long as the guy was big and Black (nevermind that The Game looks to be at least twice Martin’s age). “Hey, they all look alike, any Black man will do…copy-paste…sent!” Disgusting.

3)      There are always, ALWAYS two sides to every story. HOWEVER: this is NOT one of those, “there’s blame to be had on everyone’s part” situations. Zimmerman probably did fear for his life. But he is the reason that there was a fight and a gun in that spot on the wet concrete that night. I’m not saying he should be sent to jail for life, just for being a dummy with a gun one night. But the message of the chain email was pretty clearly: “Trayvon wasn’t an angel, so it’s sorta okay that he’s dead now.” Huh? And it’s sorta okay if a stripper is raped, or if the class clown is bullied? Even if Martin smoked weed, had problems with fighting at school, and a possible past incidence of theft, it is NOT OKAY to send chain emails about how it’s sorta understandable that he’s dead now.

4)      People are going to read that email, and believe it, and share it because they want it to be true. Sadly, there are still people who need a reason to be okay with the death of a Black teenager. Notice, they are already okay with it, they just want a reason to soothe the mind. “If Martin was as tough as he looks in that picture, anyone would have to use a gun on him, right?” Nope. Still wrong. Tough guys should be able to get Skittles too, walk home, and protect themselves from the unidentified man with a gun who is following them. Nice try though.

5)      People who read that email and don’t believe it, but don’t feel like finding the truth might not ever find out the truth. People who know exactly why the email is false might not take the time to reply to the sender, and let them know that the email has no basis in fact. And so ignorance could not simply persist, but spread unchecked!

You know, I think therein is an answer. Ignorance cannot be fought with anger, or complaining; it must be fought with honesty, with information. We all have options. No one is trapped, if they have truth and are willing to share it. That’s where you and I and all those people who like to click the forward button come in.

The real Trayvon, 9 days prior to his death. (Courtesy: snopes.com)

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“God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.” – II Timothy 1:7

Are there any better examples of how each person can make a difference than the inspiring stories that came out of the tragedy in Boston this week? Here are some of my personal favorites:

-President Obama Speaks at an Interfaith Memorial Service

Pool photo by Spencer Platt/Getty Images/MCT, via BuzzFeed

Agree or disagree with the POTUS generally, but admit that he delivers one heck of a speech. He nailed it. The full text and video is here. The highlight:

We will find (the perpetrators). We will hold you accountable. But more than that; our fidelity to our way of life — to our free and open society — will only grow stronger. For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but one of power and love and self-discipline.
Like Bill Iffrig, 78 years old… we may be momentarily knocked off our feet, but we’ll pick ourselves up…
And that’s what you’ve taught us, Boston. That’s what you’ve reminded us — to push on. To persevere. To not grow weary. To not get faint. Even when it hurts. Even when our heart aches. We summon the strength that maybe we didn’t even know we had, and we carry on. We finish the race. We finish the race.
And we do that because of who we are. And we do that because we know that somewhere around the bend a stranger has a cup of water…Somebody is there to boost our spirits. On that toughest mile, just when we think that we’ve hit a wall, someone will be there to cheer us on and pick us up if we fall.

Now, I have yet to run a marathon. And by, “have yet to,” I mean, “really haven’t ever had the desire to.” But some people I love have run marathons, and I make sport out of spectating. At first, I thought that the best part would be seeing my loved one stride confidently across the finish line. Nope. In fact, the best part of supporting a runner is cheering for them when they’re struggling. Like, SERIOUSLY STRUGGLING. Hang out at mile 18 of a 26 mile race with water and carbohydrate-rich food. Not only are the runners who miscalculated their calories suuuuuper appreciative for some life-saving food, but these sweaty, wilted humans visibly puff up as they hear a cheerful voice…like those wacky arm-waving guys at the car dealership. And then, when that look of “finish-line joy” finally does cross a runner’s face, it’s so beautiful. You’ve seen their “I’m-gonna-die-or-quit-or-both” face and now you get to see the pride and that sense of mental and physical discipline.

“Sports gels and water and a smile I can grimace back at! Thank you! Now gimme that smoothie, kid.”

Now, no one is suggesting that recovering from a terrorist act is the same as enduring a long jog on a cool morning. But what I think the President is suggesting, is that when you set your mind, your faith on something, obstacles, weariness cannot dictate to you whether or not you will continue to pursue that goal, that relationship. If Americans care about political, social, economic, expressive freedom, or heck, ATHLETIC freedom, then it doesn’t matter that a bomber doesn’t. If you are committed to the goals you set, it almost doesn’t matter if you trip, fall, or get shoved over on your way there. You will get there. Additionally, if you see that someone is struggling on the way to their goals, you can be helpful to them! Yes, you’ll be part of their troubles but you’ll also be part of their triumphs.

–The best unrehearsed choir in the U.S.A. (Links to video)

“…that our flag was still there!”

A hockey game has never seemed so important. TWO DAYS after a major bombing at a major sporting event, thousands of people get together, fill a hockey arena, and sing the national anthem in unison, at the top of their lungs. I would like to propose that, unless John Legend is already scheduled to sing it, The Star Spangled Banner should just always be sung in unison. It is one of the most beautiful performances that I have ever heard. It is also a reminder that societal freedoms cannot be taken, only given up, and here’s an example of a group in Boston that doesn’t to want to give an inch. I love it.

–Martin Richard, the Artist

“No more hurting people. Peace.”

What are the chances? Is there any worse irony than this photo? This third-grader couldn’t have known how the presence or absence of peace was going to affect him personally, but he chose to send a message about it anyway. Sadly, Martin was the youngest fatal victim of the Boston marathon bombings; more people have seen this picture than he or his family ever would have expected.

It makes me wonder: what would we take a stand for if we knew it would make a difference in our lives? Does the fact that small knives are now allowed on planes only affect the people who fly? Would you say something about the government’s legal authority to torture suspects before you somehow became wrongly accused of a serious crime? Would you really do something, at personal expense, to make your street, block, or city safer unless your own children’s lives were in the balance? There are plenty of issues that I never address because it’s “not my problem.” But I’m not willing to accept that excuse from myself any more.

Most people want a lot of things in this world to change for the better. One person cannot fight for every cause. But every person can use his or her voice and actions (or markers and construction paper) to communicate a positive message, for the sake of their own lives, and the lives of others.

There are easily hundreds more examples of people who made a difference this week in Boston. The first responders and law enforcement officers who worked double shifts, the people who donated blood, the therapy dogs brought in by the Lutheran Church Charities, the citizens who gave the police the tips that eventually led to the capture of both suspects…and so on. The comments section is open, ready to be filled with more inspiring examples if you have one to share.

Therapy dogs give love by receiving love.

-AABetterPlace

AABetterPlace is dedicated to the idea that each person can make the world, their world, a better place: one decision, one word, one action at a time.